Are you an introvert?
If you’ve been owning your fancy with me, you would know by now that I consider myself to be an introvert. This doesn’t mean that I don’t find joy in being around other people. I just enjoy being by myself more!
The thrill of being engulfed by large crowds of people is forced and can be draining at best. Naturally, my energy is boosted from internal sources and socializing in large crowds can be overwhelming. However, don’t count me out! Most people are completely shocked when I share this because their interactions with me exude the total opposite.
On the other hand, I am an observer and a listener. I’m the one standing in the circle nodding along awkwardly while overthinking what to say next. I know that I am not alone. Introverts unite!
That’s why I’m helping all of my introverted Fancy Friends by sharing with you eight safe conversation starters that will have you owning the room like an extrovert in no time.
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8 Safe Conversation Starters for Introverts
Weekend Plans
You can never go wrong by discussing the weekend. Ask how their weekend was. Check in on the upcoming weekend and inquire as to whether they have anything fun planned. You’ll be surprised where this simple question often leads. If you’re lucky, you may get an invite to get in on the fun! Will you accept? Probably not! You may be washing your hair instead…hehe!
Hobbies
What do you do for fun? What do you like to do in your free time? This is a great way to determine what you all may have in common.
Recommendations
Based off your interests, ask for recommendations. If you are a foodie, you may ask for good restaurant recommendations. If you are a reader, you may ask if they read any good books lately. Any cool places to hang about town? This also applies to movies or TV series. A popular search for recommendations I see on social media all the time is…Any good movies or series you recommend on Netflix?
Family Dynamics
One thing is for sure, people love talking about their family. In my opinion, this is a safe and long-winded way to make sure the conversation is stable. Ask them about their relationship status. You’ll be surprised at some of the back stories you will hear. Ask do they have children. But be careful. You may get invited to the next birthday party!
Career
How do you say networking, without saying networking? What do you do for a living? This question can possibly open up many doors. Ask about future career plans or goals. Go the extra mile if you can help. Connect them to professional friends who can possibly help them accomplish those goals. This could even lead to business partnerships for yourself.
Social Media
A little laugher goes a long way. Show them a funny video or meme. Ask about their social media status and possibly exchange handles to connect further. Are you on Tiktok? Let’s network on Linkedin. Etc…
Where are you from?
With so many people relocating every day, I think that this is an appropriate question to ask. For all you know, you may be from the same place. This can lead to deeper conversation if either of you have visited or plan to visit each other’s hometowns.
Compliments
If all else fails, throw out a compliment. I love your shoes, where did you get them? Etc…
TIPS:
- Lead the conversation before you get lead. This will ensure that you are in control of what’s being discussed. As a result, you will feel more comfortable and at ease.
- Smile Often
- Giggle and laugh a lot
- If all else fails, have your phone out on standby in case you need a breather 😉
